Sunday, December 19, 2004

ok, my vacation report. so far.

i left school on the 3rd and went to bethanie. oh, i was sick. i was at the bar, exchanging culture with namibians, at about 3 in the morning and a farmer offered to sell us a rack of goat ribs and neighboring meat for about 3 u.s. bucks -- a great deal. we quickly coughed up the cash (how do you beat farm fresh goat at cut rate prices?) and threw the meat in the fridge. we built a fire and cooked it the next night. it didn't taste so fresh, but they assured me that it was probably killed by a jackal rather than slaughtered normally and tasted a little funny for that reason. not one to be squeamish, i ate up. i think i might have had giardia. holy cow. not to be too descriptive, but my bodily excretions looked carbonated and smelled baaaaad.

so, anyway, i hitch-hiked to bethanie and spent a few days with kristin. then, we went to otjiwarongo and i saw emgard and jane and a lot of volunteers. it was a really nice time. then, we cruised back on down to keetmanshoop to meet up with kristin's visiting friends (who had come in a rental car from cape town). it was a day or so after the earliest time we thought they might show up, but they showed up. here's the day by day short version.

day 1 -- they show up, nobody knows how to drive stick well (although they made it 12 hours from cape town, so obviously they can get the car rolling). i'm quickly appointed driver, and stop drinking in deference to my position. once they see how lonely the road is, they decide i can have just 1 quart of beer. we feel happy--cruising through the desert, drinking castle lager, and listening to some music. we get to berseba, and some local political luminary is throwing a birthday party for his 60 year old mother and we're invited. we go to it, listen to hours of meandering speeches, and and get some food. nice. then we dance. little kids i know show up from everywhere and the americans love dancing with them. everybody has fun.

day 2 -- we go to my mountain for a camping trip. we plan on rising early and hiking while it's cool, but it doesn't work out exactly like that. we show up at noon on a day where the high temperature is 105 F. we start hiking, but after 15 minutes we have some volunteers to return to the shade. i end up accompanying, and hang out for a while, then hike up the riverbed and climb the first of two places where waterfalls are if it rains a lot. the rocks are too hot to touch, and i get a little wobbly, but enjoy the new perspective on a place i know and love. that night, we get a few dozen drops of rain, and i cook some sheep ribs and boerwors sausage, roasted bread, and such. the stars are phenomenal, and between the beers and the good times, i feel pretty happy.

day 3 -- we get up, and sit and gape at the beautiful sunrise. holy crap. rain in the west and a lot of dust make one of those sunrises that change through every sunrise color and individual rays (ok, maybe not technically correct) are clearly visible. after that, we pack up and drive to bethanie. kristin drives the rough gravel road and loves it. that night, we invite ourselves over to her friends' house and they make a poitjekos (i don't know the literal translation because it's afrikaans, but it's a dish cooked slowly in a black cast iron pot) chicken curry and rice that is fantastic. i eat my plate and finish everybody else's and it's great. we have some beers and (mostly the girls) drink springboks -- a shot made from amarula (a cream liquer) and peppermint schnapps. when i go for the 2nd bottle of amarula i talk for a while to the guys at the bottle store in kkg. the guests are suitably impressed. everybody has a good time.

day 4 -- we drive to kolmaanskop, a ghost town near the coast that is slowly being eaten by sand dunes. our tour guide talks like she has an internal cd player, but unfortunately she skips a little. she gives us a nice blend of fact and fiction. then, we go to luderitz and mess around in the ocean, i get the car stuck in the sand (the girls later push it out), and run the fastest 100 meters i've ever run while chasing someone's hat. it blew off, and the estimated tailwind i'm running with is 60 miles an hour. we go and eat somewhere, and drive a couple of hundred miles to duwisib castle--this crazy castle in the middle of freaking nowhere that some rich guy built. it takes a while, and we get there after dark and planning to camp. luckily, the farmer next to it rents an old farmhouse for hardly any more than we'd pay to the government to camp. the place is lit by kerosene lamps, and the hot water heater is a place to build a fire under a big metal tank. there's not a light for miles, and the stars are, once again, phenomenal. we build a campfire and drink beers and talk into the night. nice.

day 5 -- we get up at 5 and start driving the 150 miles to sousslessvlei (it means "vlei without any souss"). the road takes us through the south of namib-naukluft national park and we see tons of animals. ostriches, gemsbok, kudu, and springbok. all of them think that it kicks ass that it isn't really really hot and are running around and jumping and feeling good. we feel good seeing it and the beautiful scenery. we get to the national park and start hiking the 3 mile trail to the vlei (vlei's are places with clay soil in the desert that water drains into, so you end up with oasis-like patches of vegetation in the middle of places with very, very little vegetation). the sand dunes are huge and long and red or white sanded, and we see why people like that place so much. nice, we think. it gets pretty hot, but we keep the frisbee moving and run around and the trail dissapears behind us. we get to the vlei, take a couple of pictures, and start to head back, only this kevin guy loses his shoes in the dune. holy crap, we think. i remember the time i played basketball barefoot on the asphalt for a dollar. we're diggin through a sand dune, along kevin's tracks and nothing. so, we form a line and just start shoveling sand down the dune. we push sand and move slowly up for 10 or so minutes and we find the shoes. better. we go back to the car, and start driving. we get a flat tire. we work together and get the tire changed, we drive some more. we start thinking -- instead of camping out and then driving 15 hours tomorrow, why not get a little road behind us tonight? later we think, we've got jon isom, why not drive all night and just get there. i get excited. i explain that i've done this before, that it could work out, that if i sleep from 8 to 12 or so that it's safe, and that if someone stays up and talks to me it's really safe. we've all but decided to do it when a little stomach trouble hits one of the group, and we hole up in a town called springbok. it's a nice place, mountanous and flowered, with cable and showers and big comfortable couches. we have it to ourselves and rock out.

day 6 -- we drive the rest of the 500 km to cape town. the last 300 km i hardly take the gas pedal off the floor. we're passing everybody. it's good to be alive. south africa is beautiful, the road is ours, etc. etc. we get to town and start playing frisbee on the beach while kristin looks for her parents. her parents are found and we go to dinner. a little bit of a bender ensues -- it's nice to be stopping for a few days and to be parked, and starting with long island ice tea will take you places. it's fun.

day 7 -- ugh. hung over. we know the best medicine is a hike, so we climb table mountain (near downtown cape town). it takes 3-4 hours and we all feel better.

day 8 -- we go to simonstown and see the beach penguins. then, to see the cape of good hope. the waves are really big, and the coastline is really rocky, so there's lots of spray. the sun's in the perfect place to light it all up, and we can't believe how beautiful it is. we play frisbee on the south-west-most point on the african continent, but mostly just lean way over so the wind doesn't blow us off our feet.

that's been most of it so far. you can gather that i give kristin's friends a thumbs up. it's nice to be around people who can list the first 25 digits of pi and e, and who don't think twice about discussing the definitions of various scientific units. it's also been nice for me to do all this driving -- it's fun to drive a car and to go 70 mi/hr down a gravel road saying "this really reminds me of driving in deep snow." my only beef with the cape town experience is that the beach town where kristin's parents have rented a place is really exclusive and safe, but could be martha's vineyard or anywhere else nice by the ocean. still, i expect i'll make it in to the city and maybe get mugged or something before i leave.

kristin's parents like me. i'm sucking up, big time.

as you can tell, i'm having a good time and really resting up. it's nice to be feeling good. i hope kristin and i are through the worst of our troubles, but am not sure of that. she is a good one.

Saturday, December 11, 2004

finally, i have some time and am kind of in a writing mood. the last thing i wrote on here -- that i've decided to leave the school and the peace corps -- is true. it's not the kind of thing i would have anticipated doing when i joined up, but i think it's the right thing. i've spent lots of time agonizing and flip-flopping about whether to stay or go, but i've decided now.

there are lots of things i've thought about while trying to decide. i feel regret about how things went -- i really believe that if i'd come to the school expecting things to be the way they were, and had planned from the beginning to maintain a reasonable level of commitment and, really, engagement with the situation that i could easily stay there for two years. unfortunately, it was a surprise, and for a long time i was committed to do whatever i was capable of with regards to having a functioning school and helping those kids pass. in the frenzy of doing that, i think i really neglected some of the accepting, accomodating, and adapting to a new situation that is supposed to be front and center in the peace corps experience. it didn't help that the things i needed to accept, accomodate, and adapt to aren't really norms for this country, so much as for village schools. it also didn't help, i now see, that my boss at the peace corps encouraged me to try to change things at the school, rather than just accepting them.

so, there was a rough time while i (gently and thoughtfully, i thought) tried to nudge for change, then another time when i gave up on it and tried to quietly encourage those outside of the school to notice what was happening there. then, another, rougher time when the backlash hit and i was pretty directly told that things had been that way at the school for a long time and they were probably going to stay that way for another long time.

so, i said, "ok." and spent a few months there not worrying about it, taking it easy, letting go, and just doing what made sense. they were good months, in terms of enjoying village life and village kids. i laughed at some crazy stuff -- stuff that i would normally get upset about -- and had a lot of fun. but, i was also pretty flippant and fatalistic and cynical--there was really kind of a dark side to it.

that's why i think saying one year is enough. i like being flippant and fatalistic and cynical a little, but i like being hopeful and caring and concerned more. maybe it's possible for me to correct the overshoot and be more myself in that situation with time, but there's the other thing. there's some real bad blood between me and the teachers at the school. they're not awful people, but as gentle and diplomatic as i thought i was being, they felt like i pushed them into a corner and these days they turn nasty pretty quickly. my village is a small place and teaching in an unorganized, undisciplined school is a difficult thing to do without adding the people turn nasty pretty quickly factor.

it is possible that my leaving will help the school in another way, too. officially, volunteers aren't counted towards the staffing totals at schools, but it really looks to me like the ministry figures them into its formula. so, if i go it's possible that the ministry of education will send a principal to the school, and that that person will be the right person to start fixing some of the problems.

so, i have to go.... but, i look forward to seeing everyone in a month or two. i will tell you (and, i'm sure, hear) some good stories.

Thursday, December 09, 2004

ok, since we talked last i sat down and talked to the rest of the teachers about that meeting i told you about. we ended up in an argument that lasted an hour and a half and included lots of yelling. i think it pretty well finished things up for me. my plan is, very tentatively, to go on vacation through the beginning of next year, then around the 10th of january tell the peace corps i'm through. it will take a few days for them to check me for parasites and whatever, and i'll be back to the u.s. in the middle of january

after that, i don't know. i want to spend some time with friends and relaxing, then i'm thinking i may come back here on my own and find something good to do while kristin finishes up. i have some ideas about what that might be, but nothing's very far along. our relationship is pretty strained right now, and it kind of depends on what happens with it over the vacation as well.

i will write more, when i have more time, about what happened and is happening. just wanted to let you know sort of how things are.
ok, since we talked last i sat down and talked to the rest of the teachers about that meeting i told you about. we ended up in an argument that lasted an hour and a half and included lots of yelling. i think it pretty well finished things up for me. my plan is, very tentatively, to go on vacation through the beginning of next year, then around the 10th of january tell the peace corps i'm through. it will take a few days for them to check me for parasites and whatever, and i'll be back to the u.s. in the middle of january

after that, i don't know. i want to spend some time with friends and relaxing, then i'm thinking i may come back here on my own and find something good to do while kristin finishes up. i have some ideas about what that might be, but nothing's very far along. our relationship is pretty strained right now, and it kind of depends on what happens with it over the vacation as well.

i will write more, when i have more time, about what happened and is happening. just wanted to let you know sort of how things are.
ok, since we talked last i sat down and talked to the rest of the teachers about that meeting i told you about. we ended up in an argument that lasted an hour and a half and included lots of yelling. i think it pretty well finished things up for me. my plan is, very tentatively, to go on vacation through the beginning of next year, then around the 10th of january tell the peace corps i'm through. it will take a few days for them to check me for parasites and whatever, and i'll be back to the u.s. in the middle of january

after that, i don't know. i want to spend some time with friends and relaxing, then i'm thinking i may come back here on my own and find something good to do while kristin finishes up. i have some ideas about what that might be, but nothing's very far along. our relationship is pretty strained right now, and it kind of depends on what happens with it over the vacation as well.

i will write more, when i have more time, about what happened and is happening. just wanted to let you know sort of how things are.